“Am I wrong
For thinking out the box from where I stay?
Am I wrong
For saying that I choose another way?
I ain’t trying to do what everybody else doin’
Just ’cause everybody doin’ what they all do
If one thing I know, I’ll fall but I’ll grow
I’m walking down this road of mine, this road that I call home”
via Am I Wrong by Nico & Vinz
If I had a dollar for every time I felt judged, misunderstood, scolded, demeaned, and/or discarded because I have been striving to live a meaningful Life since very early on, oh man! I’d have a small fortune. If I had a dollar for all of the same except I was making my own self feel that way, man, oh man, oh man!!! I could probably bankroll a major American sports team!
Life is challenging…
I don’t care if that phrase is overstated or too cliche, it needs to be said often to remind us of its Truth. In a world where we can find resolution and receive immediate gratification within an entire 30 minute sitcom (trimmed down thanks to box sets and downloads to 22-24 minutes), we have forgotten that the Road from point A to B isn’t always so cut and dry. As a result, when faced with hardship, the natural highs and lows of Life, we don’t remember the very simple old saying:
“This too shall pass.”
LOL, seriously it seems like everything passes. I’ve known loved ones and strangers, many older, a handful younger, and an increasing number my age who have passed on beyond this realm. So logically, if in Nature, Life itself passes sooner or later, should we not think that a emotion and experience will also pass in its time.
I remember one year in Hilo where it rained, and I mean heavily rained consecutively for something like 44 days straight. Think that’s an exaggeration? Hilo ranks 8th on a list of the cities with the most annual rainfall in the US. Curious about who holds the top seven spots? Well, they are all on the Big Island within an hour or two (at most) drive from Hilo…
Despite all that rain, it’s not the reason I wanted to go away for school. I wanted to go away and dorm for the experience and oddly enough, as a child, I wanted to do so at the University of Hawaii at Manoa, which is also known for its rain, the “Manoa Mist,” which shows up flash mob style. I heard so many people complain about it while in college (and still when it rains in Honolulu in the time since) and I laugh, almost defiantly because I grew up in Hilo, where it really rains hellfire and damnation style, and takes a long while for “this too shall pass” to occur.
I love looking to Nature for the answers that I seek as I traverse my Path along Life’s Road. Rain, having been a large part of my Life, always passes. And besides the fact that it passes, more importantly, we need the rain in order to grow. Sure as there is night, that day surely comes, and it might take longer than a 12 hour increment for the Sun to shine again, but it always does.
That being said, Life is challenging…
Let’s do ourselves a favor and flip the switch any time we start to give dollars to the self-judgment fund. While we certainly cannot control the thoughts and feelings of others, we have the ability to manage our own. As soon as that heavy ish creeps into the psyche, just remember:
“This too shall pass.”
In the meantime, learn to play in the rain.